The Bible provides us with a simple yet powerful system for resolving conflict. These principles are so simple that they can be used to resolve the most basic conflicts of daily life. But they are so powerful that they have been used to mediate and arbitrate bitter divorce and child custody actions, embezzlement situations, church divisions, multi-million dollar business disputes, malpractice lawsuits, and terrible sexual abuse cases.
To gain a basic understanding of this system for biblical peacemaking, we invite you to study the foundational principles that are briefly discussed in the topics below.
- Getting to the Heart of Conflict– Conflict starts in the heart. Therefore, if we fail to address the heart in a conflict, then any solution will fall short of true reconciliation.
- The Four G’s– The biblical system for resolving conflict is captured by “The Four G’s”: Glorify God, Get the log out of your own eye, Gently Restore, and Go and be reconciled.
- The Slippery Slope– A visual tool for understanding the ways people tend to and ought to respond to conflict.
- The Seven A’s of Confession– A guide to making a sincere and complete confession.
- The PAUSE Principle– A biblical approach to negotiation.
- The Four Promises of Forgiveness– A great way to remember what you are really saying (and committing to) when you say “I forgive you.”
- The Peacemaker’s Pledge– Complete summary of biblical peacemaking, suitable for churches or organizations to commit to together.
- Relational Commitments– A way for a church to make a mutual commitment to work together to pursue unity, maintain friendships, preserve marriages, and build relationships that reflect the love of Christ.
The Gospel of Peace Mirrored Through Peacemaking – A summary statement of how the gospel of Jesus Christ is at the core of biblical peacemaking.
Judging Others describes how we project our values, beliefs and even our thought processes onto other people, and then are frustrated when they do not come to the same conclusion or react the exact same way we do.
Words that Cut gets into our hearts. Yes, people say hurtful things, some they mean and some they regret or say in anger. But even in those expressions there may be truths we can learn about ourselves, habits that we can change. This article is not about the other person being sinful or wrong, but what we can take from a confrontation even if we are wronged.
To share these basics with others, Peacemaker Ministries has developed a Peacemaking_Principles_Pamphlet. This can be viewed and downloaded to be printed, or you may order them on our online bookstore.
If you find yourself enmeshed in a conflict, please utilize The Workbook to help process the facts from the emotions, your contribution and theirs, and your next steps. You may download and print the PM Workbook (2) for your use here.