Considerations for Helping Yourself or Others

I’m in a conflict. What should I do?

Follow the steps Jesus gave us in Matthew 18:15-20.

  • STEP 1: Make sure you are prepared to respond biblically

Getting to the Heart of Conflict

  • STEP 2: Go to the other person to work it out

Foundational Peacemaking Principles

  • STEP 3: Take one or two others along

Resolving Conflict through Christian Conciliation – Pay particular attention to the section  on “Conflict Coaching,” since this will probably be the primary role you will play.

I’m trying to help someone who is in a conflict. What should I do?

First, prepare yourself to give godly counsel.

Helpful Resources from the Book Store

Training to prepare you

Once you have prepared yourself, guide the person you’re helping toward resources that point to Jesus Christ and the hope we have through the Gospel.

  • This website
  • The listed resources available through the online bookstore
  • Local church leaders and your church’s peacemaking team

I’m a party to a contract that has a conciliation clause (language that says disputes must be resolved by mediation or arbitration under the Rules of Procedure for Christian Conciliation of the Institute for Christian Conciliation). What should I do?


My church is in a conflict. What should I do?

First, make sure you are prepared to respond biblically yourself.  Then please read our materials related to Getting Help with a Church Conflict.