eNews @ Peacemaker Ministries – October 2007

 

eNews @ Peacemaker Ministries – October 2007

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Monthly news and commentary on biblical peacemaking October 2007
In This Issue: • Teaching Children to be Peacemakers

•  A Snapshot of a Church on the Journey

• New Pricing for Peacemaker Products

• Quote of the Month

• Testimony of the Month

The Young Peacemaker Provides detailed plans for teaching biblical peacemaking to 3rd-7th grade children in families, Christian schools, home schools, Sunday schools, VBS, and youth groups. $17.95              more info

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•    November 2-3, Wichita, KS – Peacemaker Seminar

•    November 8-10, Englewood, CO – Conflict Coaching/Mediation Training

•    December 7, Midlothian, VA – Conflict Coaching

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Teaching Children to be Peacemakers

by Ken Sande, President of Peacemaker Ministries

Whoever first said raising children is a challenge should be inducted into the Understatement Hall of Fame. Children offer their parents continuous–and bountiful–blessing, true. They can be the picture of innocence, little independent units of humanity with bright, sparkling eyes and completely candid emotions. And when brought up to trust and love their Lord, they gladden many a parental heart.

But they, like the rest of us, were born into sin. And, as sinners, their hearts and minds are naturally inclined toward evil. This propensity toward sin plays itself out in many areas of kids’ lives.

Jesus put Christian behavior in proper perspective when He was asked to identify the most important commandment. He said, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.” But then he added the second greatest: “‘Love your neighbor as yourself'” (Matt. 22:37- 39).

We can show our love for God through public worship, daily times of prayer and Bible study, and by giving to ministries that advance his kingdom. But he also calls us to demonstrate our love for him by loving other people in concrete ways: “He has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother” (1 John 4:21). In a fallen world, such love for others does not come naturally. Nobody has to teach us to put “me” first; we do not need instruction on how to be selfish. And, if you didn’t know it before you had children, you certainly know it after: Nobody has to teach kids to fight.

Love for other human beings is a gift of God, given primarily through the gracious work of the Holy Spirit, who changes our hearts and gives us a growing desire and ability to love other people (see Philippians 2:13). But God has also chosen to involve people, especially parents, in this educational process, using us to model and teach how to love one another.

This fact has a profound effect on how we raise our children. For the truth is, we must, with God’s help, teach our children to respect others, live with others, and most importantly, love others. If they are to live lives pleasing to God, they will need education in how to get along with their siblings and friends. And to do this, they must know how to properly resolve conflicts even amongst themselves. In short, they must be taught peacemaking.

And we, their parents, must be the teachers. Our churches and schools may contribute to this goal, but when it comes to instructing our children in getting along with others, in resolving conflicts amongst themselves, parents must assume the primary responsibility to model and teach how to love others as God commands (see 1 John 3:23; Deuteronomy 6:6-7; Ephesians 6:4).

To fulfill this important responsibility, parents must learn to see this matter as God sees it. Through Scripture, God teaches us that relationships invariably involve conflict. He also teaches that we should be prepared to respond to these conflicts in a variety of constructive ways.

Some conflicts call for friendly discussion, teaching, or respectful debate (see John 3:1-21; 2 Timothy 2:24-26). In other situations we should overlook offenses, lay down rights, and do good to those who wrong us (see Luke 6:27-28; 9:51-56; Matthew 17:24-27). Sometimes love requires gentle confrontation or a firm rebuke (see John 4:1-42; Matthew 23:13-29). Above all, we need to be willing to forgive others just as in Christ God forgave us (see Luke 23:34; Ephesians 4:32).

As these passages indicate, getting along with other people requires a loving heart and a wide array of conflict resolution skills. In other words, it requires peacemaking.

Since all of life involves relationships and all relationships are prone to conflict, peacemaking is a key to success in life. This is as true for our children as it is for us. Therefore, the first requirement for teaching children to be peacemakers is to show that peacemaking skills are necessary if they want to succeed in their Christian life. Consider a few specific areas of life where peacemaking applies:

  • Peacemaking skills are especially important to helping us live as Christians in our increasingly godless culture. Consider Daniel and Esther, who lived in cultures that were completely hostile to their faith. Amazingly, they not only survived, but they thrived as God blessed their efforts and moved them to pinnacles of influence in their societies. If our children learn these same skills at a young age, they too may be used of God in places of ministry or for political or corporate influence beyond our imaginations.
  • Kids need to learn that peacemaking is essential to their Christian witness. Jesus said, “By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:35). If our children learn how to love and be reconciled with those who wrong them, others are more likely to believe them when they talk about the love and forgiveness of God (John 17:23).
  • Peacemaking is also crucial for success in professional and vocational life. I have worked as a corporate engineer, a lawyer, and a ministry executive. What I have valued most in an employee or manager is the ability to work as part of a team, to maintain strong relationships, and to build consensus so a group’s gifts and energies stay focused on the project at hand. These are the skills of a peacemaker, and they are the same skills that will help your children succeed in the vocations to which God calls them.
  • Peacemaking is a key ingredient in a fulfilling marriage and a happy family. Marriage brings two sinners into close proximity, where their selfish desires rub against each other day after day. Friction increases when God adds “little sinners” to the mix! There is only one way to deal with this volatile mixture: with humble confession, loving confrontation, and genuine forgiveness–the three basic tools of the biblical peacemaker.

In short, peacemaking equips children for life. If you want your children to glorify God, have fulfilling and enduring marriages, be fruitful in their careers, and contribute to their churches and the building of God’s kingdom, teach them to be peacemakers!

Adapted from Peacemaking for Families, by Ken Sande (Tyndale, 2002).

A Snapshot of a Church on the Journey

Is your church on the journey toward a culture of peace? If not, we invite you to begin today! Here’s one church’s story:

Our church experienced a conflict amongst the leadership that did not go well. This situation was combined with a vague feeling that unresolved conflicts of the past were still lingering. Out of all this, I was personally struck with a sense that God must have a better way. As one of the church leaders, I felt inadequate to deal with these situations on my own, and so I figured that there must be others out there that have been down this road already. I literally did a Google search on “church conflict” and was amazed by what I found. I was initially struck by the sheer amount of information out there, confirming for me that we were not alone in having conflict. After checking several websites, I came to the Peacemaker Ministries website, and it was very clear to me that God did have a better way…

Read the entire article online.  Excerpt from the Fall 2007 issue of Peacemaker Magazine.

New Pricing for Peacemaker Products

Our Resource Center provides many practical resources for learning and applying biblical peacemaking in your home and church. To help get these resources into your hands, we have recently dropped the price on many of our most popular products, including The Peacemaker, Peacemaking Women, The Peacemaking Pastor, and The Young Peacemaker. Visit our online bookstore today and browse through these and many other helpful tools on peacemaking.

Quote of the Month

Ken Sande in The Peacemaker writes:

“Unity is more than a key to internal peace. It is also an essential element of your Christian witness. When peace and unity characterize your relationships with other people, you show that you are God’s child and he is present and working in your life (Matt. 5:9). The converse is also true: When your life is filled with unresolved conflict and broken relationships, you will have little success in sharing the good news about Jesus’ saving work on the cross.”

Testimony of the Month

In a real-life example of the quote above, rejoice with us in this wonderful testimony of the greatest reconciliation — reconciliation with God through Christ!

“Last semester, we had a young lady in one of our Tuesday evening Peacemaker classes. She only attended three sessions due to the fact that she had a one-hour commute from her office to our church in the evenings and then a two-hour commute home afterwards! I loaned her my set of the CDs of The Peacemaker to listen to on the road so that she would have time to do her ‘homework’ for the class. She phoned me a few weeks later — she was ecstatic!

“Unbeknownst to us, this woman was of a Middle Eastern religion with no ties whatsoever to Christianity. She had only heard of our class and chosen to come because of a conflict that she was involved in at work — she had no interest in our faith. Through just two or three classes and the materials, and as she stated, “seeing the peace so evident in your lives,” she accepted Jesus Christ as her Savior. She now is a member of our church and attends our Sunday morning Peacemaker class during the Sunday school hour.

“On her first week there she shared her testimony with the class. What evidence she provided for us and our new class this semester that the gospel really works!”

Bryan and Rose Alison

Atlanta, GA

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