Learning to Respond Biblically to Personal Conflict
Welcome to the rewarding world of peacemaking!
Do you ever wish you were consistently able to handle conflict in a way that pleases God? The information on this page is designed to help you learn, apply, and practice biblical peacemaking skills that can be applied in family, church, and work conflicts. It will also prepare you to resolve differences with non-Christians and to use peacemaking as a witness for Christ.
Acquire these resources
There’s so much to learn, so where should you start? Peacemaker Ministries has assembled a set of resources that is ideally suited for people who are beginning to learn about biblical peacemaking. These resources are available through our online bookstore or on the website. The key resources include:
- The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict (Baker Books, 3rd ed., 2004)
- Resolving Everyday Conflict book (Baker Books, 2011)
- Complete Resolving Everyday Conflict online at Peacemaker University
- Four hypothetical case studies (with detailed sample responses)
- Peacemaker Workbook
- Peacemaking Principles Pamphlets
- Slippery Slope Card
Complete these five sequential activities
- Complete Case Study #1 using what you presently know about resolving conflict. Then compare your response to the detailed response provided through the link at the end of this case study. This process will help you to identify your present strengths as a peacemaker, as well as areas where you can grow.
- Read The Peacemaker or Resolving Everyday Conflict or complete the Resolving Everyday Conflict course at Peacemaker University. Each book or study provides detailed and practical guidance on how to apply God’s peacemaking principles to the conflicts of everyday life.
- Use the Peacemaker Workbook to evaluate a current or past conflict in your life. This will move your study from the theoretical to the concrete, and help you to learn the practical aspects of peacemaking. (You may complete the workbook progressively as you read The Peacemaker, or wait until after reading the book.)
- Complete at least one of the remaining case studies (case #2, case #3 or case #4) and compare your response to the detailed responses provided for each case. This exercise will reveal how much you’ve grown as a peacemaker, and it will strengthen your ability to respond to real life conflicts in practical and God-honoring ways. If you want to learn even more, do one or both of the additional cases studies; the more you practice, the more you will learn.
- “Walk” someone else through the Peacemaking Principles pamphlets. Explain these life-changing peacemaking principles to someone else in a relaxed setting, perhaps over coffee or lunch–it will bless the other person and deepen your own understanding of these concepts.
Consider further training
After completing this study, you may expand your peacemaking skills through the next levels of Peacemaker Training. In particular, if you have a desire to sit down with a friend over a cup of coffee and help your friend work through his/her conflict, we suggest that you attend the Conflict Coaching training. Once you have completed this training, you may want to continue with training in mediation, advanced training in marriage or church conflict resolution, or even certification as a Christian conciliator.
Use other resources
As you continue learning about personal peacemaking, you may want to read the articles on this website that relate to this topic.